How to Stand Up for Yourself and Take the Driver’s Seat in a Controlled System
When I first arrived in France, I didn’t have many contacts. The only person I knew gave me a number for someone renting out a studio apartment near my workplace at the time. But from the moment I saw the apartment, I didn’t like it. It had no windows, the area didn’t feel right, and the setup gave me a heavy, unsettling feeling. On top of that, I had two dreams that confirmed for me that this wasn’t the place for me.
Still, I was staying in a temporary booking with limited time to find housing, walking around with my children and three cats, and lacking the credentials typically required in France since I had just moved from Barcelona. It felt like I had no real choice.
But just three days before I had to vacate the booking, I found another apartment. I had turned down the studio that was initially offered to me, despite the pressure. This new apartment was in a better neighborhood, around the same price, and—most importantly—it had a window. A real window that let in sunlight. It felt right.
The point of this story is simple: in this matrix, fear of the unknown can make us accept less than we deserve. It can make us settle for options the system throws our way, convincing us they’re our only ones. But being chosen—or simply being intentional about living your life—means learning how to resist the pressure and reclaim your power in decision-making.
You have to know what you want. That doesn’t mean never compromising—but it does mean never under-serving yourself.
Let me ask:
How many of us have sat in a salon chair, watching a stylist do something outrageous to our hair, but stayed quiet out of fear of offending them?
Or been in a restaurant, received a wrong or subpar order, and stayed silent so as not to “make a fuss”?
While those moments might seem small, if they happen often, they point to a deeper issue: a fear of standing up for your desires and boundaries. If that fear becomes habitual, you leave yourself wide open to being guided by the will of others—many of whom are simply characters playing out their roles in this system, often unaware of the greater spiritual narrative.
Since childhood, I’ve had recurring dreams about buses. Sometimes I was at the front. Sometimes at the back. Sometimes waiting, other times getting off or on. The bus has always symbolized the direction of my life. And for much of my past, I was not driving—I was a passenger, subject to wherever the route led. It wasn’t until I began waking up spiritually that I realized: I had to drive the bus.
How to Stop the Matrix from Hijacking Your Destiny and Decisions
1. Pay Attention to Inner Promptings and Dreams
God often gives us insight through dreams and intuitive nudges. Don’t ignore them. They are tools to help you discern the right path—even when logic or fear says otherwise.
2. Don’t Let Pressure Rush Your Decisions
Whether it’s a living situation, a job, or a relationship—avoid making rushed decisions under pressure. Take a pause. Ask for guidance. When we make decisions from fear, we align with the matrix, not with God’s plan.
3. Practice Saying “No”
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for protecting your peace. Start small if you need to—correct a wrong food order, speak up at the salon, set a boundary with someone trying to manipulate your time. These moments build inner authority.
4. Use Your Voice and Your Faith Together
Pray. Declare your intentions out loud. Use Scripture, affirmations, and decrees to realign your spirit with God’s will—not the system’s manipulation. This is active spiritual warfare.
5. Learn to Discern the NPC Energy
Not everyone is sent by God. Some people are distractions or agents of delay. Test the spirits behind offers, relationships, and opportunities. Just because something is available doesn’t mean it’s meant for you.
In a world constantly trying to program your steps, learning to stand up for yourself is spiritual warfare. It's a declaration that you will not be led by fear, manipulation, or false urgency. You are chosen, and you were meant to live intentionally—not by default.
